So began a testimonial I received a few days ago from one of my recent clients. How timely for a Law of Attraction coach such as I. I say timely because I had just been pondering to myself for some days what I consider to be the chief attributes of a skilled coach since I had been planning to write this article for some time, when voila ... these words appeared in my inbox as if by magic!
I so love the Law of Attraction.
Ask and it is indeed given.
I categorically agree with John, my client when he says how critical it is to co-create and establish a bond of trust with each other. Without that, what else is there?
A prerequisite of a great coach is that they must be able to create a safe, supportive environment that builds upon ongoing mutual respect and confidence as well as showing genuine concern for the client's welfare, perceptions, individual learning style, personality and natural abilities. For me, seeing each client in their highest potential and holding the vision for their guaranteed success is always something that strengthens our bond and as I hold the space for them to be all that they can be ~ even sometimes when they don't see that possibility themselves, the coaching process moves along much more rapidly and deeply... always.
A great coach always displays personal integrity, honesty and sincerity; they make clear agreements and keep their promises at all times, while unfailingly providing ongoing support for their client's new beliefs, behaviors and actions.
They are always solution focused.
So what would YOU say are the qualities you would look for in a coach?
What would you perhaps add?
As a coach who is hoping to receive accreditation from the International Coach Federation, I've had to study their requirements and inquire into them to my own individual satisfaction, so here are a few more highlights I think you all could benefit from when evaluating whether the coach you are thinking of working with not only meets ethical standards and guidelines, but also has high standards of integrity in their dealings with their clients: i.e. with YOU!
Firstly I think it's really important that you both lay down the groundwork and define the parameters before you even get started on sessions.
It's essential that your future coach explain to you what they will provide in your coaching sessions, (as well as what they will not), and to come to a simple agreement with you beforehand about the coaching process and your forthcoming relationship.
To my mind you both have to be on the same page BEFORE you even get started so there are no surprises at a later date. This should include discussing logistics, fees and scheduling as well their coaching methods and your prospective needs. You need to work out whether you will be a 'team fit'. For my part I have a very clear vision of my 'ideal client' so by and large the people who are attracted to working with me always fall into that sector; consequently I can almost guarantee in advance that the working relationship will not only be harmonious and successful but be pleasurable and fun for us both.
Nevertheless I do send out a very basic Coaching Agreement to every client once we've agreed to work together which sets a professional tone for our future relationship. I find everyone benefits from a bit of certainty before beginning a series of sessions that could ofeel quite daunting until we get under way!
John commented on how important it is for a coach to be able to listen to what his or her client has to say; I call this Active Listening ~ being able to focus completely on what the client is saying but more importantly on what they might NOT be saying and being able to read between the lines. I find that by using my intuition and asking powerful and quality questions, I am often able to facilitate our getting to the truth of a situation that my clients have long failed to see, at which point we are then able to co-create rapid solutions by my client becoming more conscious and aware.
I think that an ability to be fully present and flexible also helps create a spontaneous relationship with each and every client, while being able to 'dance in the moment' and be truly response-able is also a vital skill.
After all, each client is so unique that no two sessions are ever the same, nor are there ever typical solutions.
A great coach also asks questions that will move you towards what you want, rather than ones that might force you to rationalize or look backwards or talk about what you DON'T want. They ask open-ended questions that help you get more clear and ones that will challenge your beliefs and assumptions which will lead to your eventual breakthrough.
Finally an expert coach will be not only be experienced at Goal Setting and at outlining an effective coaching plan with their clients but will also hold them absolutely accountable for what they say they are going to do. They will also make certain that their clients become 100% responsible for their own results, above all moving them away from 'victim' or blame mentality. I always smile when I hear my clients say, "Oops, I shouldn't have said that, should I?" because I know I've done a good job at empowering them to think differently and become more self aware... at which point their transformation is beyond question.
For my part with the style of coaching I practice, (Law of Attraction coaching) we are less GOAL oriented and more VISION focused.
We spend a lot of time working together, establishing a mental picture of what my client wants and then helping them really associate emotionally and vibrationally with their dreams. This is certainly not to say that you and I wouldn't work together to create solutions and results; it is just that they somehow become secondary to the great feelings you would experience and from which your results would stem with less effort and more simplicity and flow.
Of course there are many other ingredients essential to creating an inspiring relationship between coach and client but the final one I want to cover here is the factor of discretion. I always respect the confidentiality of all my clients' information. This is absolutely fundamental to establishing and maintaining a 'sacred space' where the real transformational work can happen. This magical space we share together is one of the main reasons I love coaching.
I see Professional Coaching as an ongoing professional co-creation that helps ordinary people produce extraordinary results in their lives, careers, businesses or organizations ~ in their health, wealth and relationships, but above all in their relationship with themselves.
In the course of coaching, clients deepen their learning, become much more self-aware, develop their life skills and enhance not only their quality of life but as a result of their feeling more happy and fulfilled, also enhance the quality of life of ALL the people with whom they interact.